I’ve been thinking about boundaries lately.

Boundaries are difficult for me.

Whether it’s because of my mother, whose actions are influenced by having grown up under a narcissistic father although not being narcissistic herself, because of my planets in the 8th house, because of my Venus in Pisces, because my father is almost certainly on the Asperger’s spectrum, or because Hades and Persephone are my OTP…

In many ways it doesn’t matter why.

The truth is that I find it hard to judge where the line falls, when to stop dancing, what to say and not to say, and how much laughter is too much. My default coping strategy for this used to be to segregate everything. If I kept everything in specific little boxes and people knew what to expect, then there would be little risk of annoying or insulting anyone.

Personal blog. Author blog. Personal Facebook. Author Facebook. Twitter. Tumblr. Patreon. Wattpad. Newsletter. Etc etc etc.

What ended up happening was spotty coverage, if coverage happened at all. Spoons would run out, or I’d forget because of the brain fog, or I wouldn’t be doing enough in one area to be updating enough…

Not to mention, real life is messy. Everything is linked. To split myself like a chicken cut up into parts intended for different dishes is silly and doesn’t work. Parts of my life don’t live in a vacuum separate from each other and to pretend like they do is only hurting everything.

So I’m reassessing my boundaries and figuring out how to work things into an organic free-flowing whole.

For now:

I’m on Twitter for general hijinks, chatter, and commentary on what’s going on in the world as it passes by my timeline.
Newsletter will be reserved for new releases. For now.
I’m still updating the Sleeping Beauty re-telling on Wattpad on Fridays.
Patreon is the place to go for snippets, random story ideas that might get written with sufficient interest, and maybe an early unveiling of Phoenix Awoken.
As for this blog, I’ll probably be on here more, posting about Hades, astrology, tarot, the latest plotbunny, what the research has turned up, and so on.


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